Individual Therapy and Couples Counselling

Reconnecting with yourself in a world that didn’t teach you how.

Growing up in a world that often taught survival rather than connection strategies, many fall into patterns of anxiety, stress, disconnection, and isolation; breaking these patterns can be difficult to do alone.

Frequent Reasons to Seek Individual Therapy

Everyone experiences disconnection differently. My approach is collaborative; I work to understand the impact of your experience as well as identify internal barriers to change. Some of the most frequent issues clients seek therapy for include:

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Stress

  • Relationship conflict

  • Self-esteem issues

  • Intimacy issues

My approach

Therapy: a space for support, growth, and appropriate challenge.

My approach is informed by Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy, which uses the Ego-State model as well as Life Script analysis to identify patterns in relating, thinking, feeling, and behaving. For couples work, I also draw on the Bader-Pearson Developmental model of Couplehood, which provides a framework for both assessing and diagnosing the stage of relationship’s development, as well as treating relationship difficulties.

In addition to this, I am trained in a “relational model” of therapy, meaning I often share my own in-the-moment responses to what clients bring to therapy, rather than the more “blank slate” approach used in traditional talking therapies. This process can be very effective in uncovering recurring self-defeating patterns and opening the way for healthier, more fulfilling ways of relating.

These approaches all lend themselves well to providing both short-term symptom relief, and supporting longer-term depth work to address internal barriers to change. I do not use manualised therapy frameworks such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

Whether you're seeking support around intimacy, communication, conflict, coming out, mental health, or navigating wider social and systemic pressures, our work together will provide a space for healing, exploration, and growth.

Finding the right therapist

A strong therapeutic relationship is key to meaningful change. It’s important that you feel a sense of trust and safety, with space for that trust to grow over time. By reflecting on the process within our sessions, we can make adjustments as needed and strengthen the “working alliance”, creating a supportive and empathic space for the work to unfold.

While much of my experience is working with gay men, I work with clients of all identities and backgrounds. Having shared lived experience is not a guarantee of a good therapeutic relationship, and not all gay men share the same experience; sometimes “sameness” helps in the therapy room as there may be areas of your life you don’t want to explain, at other times you may want the “difference” of another perspective from someone with another experience to your own. This can also evolve during the course of the work.

In-person and Online

My practice rooms are located in southeast London, a short walk from Greenwich DLR station: Linear House, Peyton Place, London SE10 8RS. I both work in-person and online.

Warm, inviting therapy room with a soft sofa, a safe space for reflection, connection and emotional support in gay couples therapy in London.

Location

Linear House, Peyton Place

Greenwich, London SE10 8RS

Contact

email
alex@alexvendittelli.com

phone

020 3825 1925

 

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